Flaws & All...

Earlier today, I had a conversation that left me thinking about some things. Why is it so hard for people to accept their flaws?  Why is it that once a flaw is mentioned, people automatically go into defense-mode and immediately start pointing out the other person's flaws?  Maybe it's because, in accepting your flaws, you're spotlighting the negative parts of you and admitting that you're not perfect.  Now everyone knows they're not perfect, but there's something about highlighting your imperfections that is sometimes painfully uncomfortable.  It's even worse when your view of yourself may not be the same view that others are receiving.  Often times, the way you may envision yourself is not what you are really giving off and is the not the way people see you.  Sometimes it takes someone holding a mirror to you to see everything. That 'fun-house' view may not be what you thought you'd see.  How does one make it easier to accept this view?  I'll let you know what I think. 

Acceptance is tough, but freeing.  Fighting your reality is more exhausting. Accepting it may be uncomfortable,  but at least it puts you in the position to begin the process of changing the negative into a positive.  The first step to working on and eventually changing your flaws, is to list them.  For example, some of my flaws (and this is tough to admit, believe me), are that I can be moody, a little icy, picky, shy, judgemental, and too structured.  Writing that, admitting it, seeing it, and putting it out there for all to see is much more difficult then it appears, but it is what it is.  Change isn't easy, but it's worth it.  


So what do I do now?  What will you do after you list and admit yours?  Well, what I did, because I've already started, is wonder where that characteristic stems from and why I may sometimes project it.  When you start figuring this out, it'll be easier to get rid of it.  Also, I monitor myself a lot.  At first, it's difficult because you'll act and then think, but after a while, you'll get to the point where you will catch yourself before you exhibit your flaw.  Eventually, you'll change.  Take it day by day, and moment by moment.


At the end of the day, you're not going to be perfect.  You'll still have your moments that aren't so great.  The ultimate goal is to create a better version of you.  If you stay true to yourself and remain genuine, you'll be happy and loved...flaws and all....


Beyonce couldn't have said it any better...enjoy.

Until next time...keep the forward movement...