Rated: ADULT...The Big Ohhhhhhhh

Orgasm: the physical and emotional sensation experienced at the peak of sexual excitation, usually resulting from stimulation of the sexual organ and usually accompanied in the male by ejaculation. I find it so interesting that in the main definition it only includes what it looks like for men. True, you can see a man's ejaculation, but women orgasm too....or do we?

I saw an article on Essence.com about a young lady that faked her "finish" (You can view this article here) and it got me thinking about why a lot of women do that. Now, this is a topic that is consistantly on the tongues of women across the country and still, so many women are allowing men to believe that they're doing something they're not. My friends and I discuss it all the time and find that with maturity and comfort within yourself, your views and actions become better. Here are a few reasons why I believe women let this happen.

• Men are fragile....and although some of them may be offended by this, it's true. As strong as men are, deep down, they tend to be as sensitive if not more than women. I've heard alot of women say "he's great and it feels good, but I'm not getting all the way there." They're too afraid to tell the man that assuming that he will get angry.

• A lot of women have never had an orgasm , so they don't even know what they're looking for. How can you tell your man what to do, if you don't know and have specific ways to tell him? Men need concrete instructions and you need to be to be able to tell him without him having to guess. Take the time to learn what you want and love and teach him the way. I'm sure this will be the best learning experience he's ever had :).

• Many women are settling. Whether they want to admit or not, some women are content in their lack of orgasm and only consider the man's pleasure...and ladies...that simply isn't fair. Being intimate with someone is built for enjoyment from BOTH sides and it's the most amazing at the point when two people are satisfied.

Ladies, a man who cares about you, will care about pleasing you as well, sometimes, more than pleasing himself. If expressed with care and respect, he'll do whatever it takes to make sure that he takes you exactly where you need to be :).

What do you think? I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Have you've ever been in this situation? Ladies, sound off!


Until next time...keep the forward movement...