Fearless Tips- Tips to Keep You From Losing Yourself!

If you’re anything like me, you overextend yourself.  You can sometimes find it difficult to say “no” and end up putting your personal issues and tasks aside to help others.  Though being the “go-to” person feels great and has it’s benefits, you may find yourself completely lifeless and emotionally drained.  You must know this: there’s a way to be there for people without completely losing yourself!  Follow these tips to

Boundaries: You must set boundaries.  Boundaries are important because they set the tone for how things are going to go, and also teach people how to treat you.  You don’t have to let people walk all over you with their requests.  Learn to be of service, but keep ridiculous demands at bay.

Just Say “No”: One of the biggest things you can do for yourself is to learn when to say “no.”  You can’t be everything to everybody and you most certainly can’t be helpful if you’re stretched too thin.  You’re going to have to be comfortable with denying some things and people and not allow the guilt of your “no” to overtake you.  

Put Your Requests First:  It’s so easy and natural to drop what you’re doing and help someone with their needs, but unless it’s an emergency, it can wait.  If you make a habit of pushing your things aside, subconsciously, you’re saying that your needs aren’t as important as everyone else’s.  Never neglect to complete your tasks.

A little “Me” Time: Whether it’s a drive alone, or a euphoric spa experience, do what you need to do to refuel yourself.  Sometimes, it may even entail meditating in a quiet space, prayer, or simply shutting off your phone for a couple of hours.   Whatever you need to relax and refuel, take the time to do it!  The better you are to yourself, the better you can be for everyone else!

Until next time....keep the forward movement....