Call Me Sometimes....

In today's world, there's text messaging, skype, email, bbm'ing, google chat, instant messaging, and all the social networks you could handle.  There is a ridiculous amount of ways to keep in touch (sometimes stalk, lol) someone nowadays.  Technology has made is so that you can never speak to someone and miss not one beat.  It's pretty convenient when you think of it.  No longer does your long distance love have to cool down until the next time you see each other; with the click of a mouse, you can view and 'enjoy' your honey (as best as possible anyway) via skype video...or so I've heard, lol.  With all these ways to connect and maintain communication, the simple phone call seems like a thing of the past and is beginning to be a faint memory.  The many forms of "talking" have taken the place of actually picking up the phone and calling someone.  Although these things are more convenient, they can't take the place of and will never be as personal as a phone call. 

Men usually make excuses when it comes to this. I'm just going to go ahead and put it out there from this perspective because 1. I'm a woman and 2. this is how I feel.  Oftentimes, you'll find that men don't really care whether you call or not or what form of communication you use to reach them.  You can understand the importance of a phone call if you listen to the apparant grunts and groans of many women when it comes to their man not doing it.  He thinks, regardless of the mode of delivery, the message still got there....very logical.  A woman, on the other hand, thinks the opposite...it's not exactly the message, but the method of delivery....completely emotional.  Neither side is right or wrong.  It is what it is because men and women will always be the way they are and if you try to fight that, you'll end up very frustrated.

Speaking from the woman's perspective, nowadays we understand the convenience of texting and all the other ways.  Hell, we do it too, so obviously we like it, but every now and then, CALL.  In my mind, if you really care about a person, hearing their voice sometimes, shouldn't be torture for you.  This doesn't have to occur all day, everyday but at least make the effort.  Sometimes it's the simple things.  Technology makes it convenient for you to send an e-card, but how about you ask for her address and send her one that she can cherish and keep, versus the one that expires in 30 days.  Yes, it's quicker to send her a text telling her that you miss her and are thinking of her (believe me we save every one :) lol), but, it in no way, compares to hearing your voice saying the very same thing.  It's PERSONAL.  It's less convenient which means you took the time out and women desire that.  We desire the EFFORT from you because you don't and won't do it for everyone and that makes it even more special. 

Before I go, I must say something to my FELLAS: No, you may not want to call, but compromise.  When you care about someone, you do things to make them happy.  No, you don't need to change who you are, but making the effort and calling every now and then isn't going to kill you.  It's going to show her that you care enough to do the little things that makes her happy....and I'll add that it doesn't matter whether you're in a relationship or not.  I know a lot of men who love to use that excuse when they don't want to do something, but caring about and being connected to someone gives the middle finger to titles.  You obviously care enough, otherwise you wouldn't deal with anything.  Now for my LADIES: Don't expect him to all of a sudden start doing what you want him to as many times as you want him to.  The key word for us is compromise as well.  I'll admit, (and you should too), that sometimes we as women tend to expect from a man not what he's shown, but what we've created in our minds....and unfortunately it only makes things worse.  They get upset because we're upset and technically they've done nothing.  I used to be so upset that whoever I was dating wasn't calling as much as I'd like him and I'd take it personal.  Now, I don't necessarily need calls all day, everyday, but I do like calls sometimes coupled with all the other modes of communication.  Appreciate all the little things and don't dismiss his effort.

At the end of the day, men and women will overall continue to function and think in the exact manner that they do.  This doesn't mean that you can't evolve or make exceptions.  Don't fight it.  If you care enough, you'll either get on board or jump ship and make room for someone else!

Until next time...keep the forward movement...