In Love, Only YOU Have to Understand

I'm sure many of you know that this weekend Carmelo Anthony and his former fiancee Lala, got married.  All the blogs and websites kept congratulating them and saying things like "the eternal fiancee has finally snagged herself a husband" and other things along those lines.  At first, I laughed, but when I really thought about it, it stopped being funny, at least in that way.  For those of you who don't know, Lala and Carmelo have been engaged for 5 years, live together, and have a son together.  For years, people have been calling Lala stupid for being with him when it was so obvious (to them) that he was never actually planning on marrying her.  They even nicknamed her "the eternal fiancee".  It boggles my mind how so many people can make such deep judgements about someone they don't know.  I know that the media has it so that they're in your face every five seconds, so you may feel like you know them, but you don't.  Never once, did anyone give her the benefit of the doubt or even give him the benefit of the doubt as to why the conclusion of their union was taking so long.  Come to think of it, what's too long?  Who defines that?  The right time for someone to get married varries within each relationship and that time frame is for no one but the two involved to decide.

About six months ago, there were a few articles that Lala and Carmelo did that went in depth, for the first time, about their relationship.  He surprised everyone by saying that he's been ready to get married, but it's Lala who wanted to hold off because she wanted to be in the right place for herself before she became his wife.  Wow!  Who would've thought?  Usually, it's men who drag their feet when it comes to marriage, but she wanted to take her time and for a very good reason, I might add.  Often, men do this.  They make sure they're in the right position in life before they make such a committment.  I guess us women are always ready to some degree and usually before our counterparts.  Lala was smart enough to know and be secure enough in the love and life that the two of them created together, that she needed no one else's approval on her time frame, but her fiancee and God.  This really got me thinking.

There are so many relationships that don't make it because they let the words and opinions of others dictate their actions.  When dealing with love, trust your instincts, your heart, and your mind. NOONE, friends & family included, needs to understand the dynamics of your union except for you, your man/woman, and God. Pray about it & DO YOU.  You and your spouse will definetly have the last laugh.  You'll laugh all the way to alter and laugh through your wonderful life together because you trusted your partner, yourself, and most importantly God.

Congrats Lala & Carmelo!